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Tell Someone You DON’T Like Them

Tell Someone You DON’T Like Them…could this actually be good advice for most of us today?

This past Thursday I guest posted a blog entry over on Tyler’s page about churchrater.com (you can read it HERE if you’re interested) and I shared one of the blind spots in leadership is that people rarely tell you want you should improve on, instead they will simply leave your ministry if they are dissatisfied enough.  Doing so robs us in leadership of the opportunity to learn and grow into better, more effective leaders.  Sadly to make matters worse many will gladly share the”issues” they have with you with just about anyone with ears.  Throughout a decade in youth ministry I haven’t been naive to this or ever pretended it didn’t exist, in fact being the confrontational person that I am I would often go after such people once I hard of their “issue” second hand. Lately I find myself much less interested in having those conversations.  I could easily name probably ten situations off the top of my head which I’ve heard secondhand of issues people are having with church leadership and have not shared it with the leader involved (some of them involving me).

What prevents most people from sharing their gripes with another?  I’m sure some of you would say it is a personality thing; “I’m just non-confrontational.” Maybe you think it wouldn’t be worth it, the person wouldn’t change anyways.    Whatever is stopping you I would ask you to pause long enough to consider the ways someone might be able to change/improve if you shared your thoughts in a thoughtful manner.  We all have flaws, weaknesses, insecurities…and you must remember that those of us in leadership, our flaws are much more visible and easy to critique.  An old recovery principle comes to mind; the only way to conquer an issue is to go through it…not around it.  Together we can help each other become better people, if we engage the conversation dealing with the REAL issues…and part of that conversation has to include a willingness to share what we don’t like about them. Check out Matthew 18 for some divine thoughts on this topic :)

 
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Posted by on February 27, 2010 in Uncategorized

 

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Wildfire Wrap

Attendance

Average.

Talk

Still recovering from camp, I decided to do an abbrevated talk on worship with Tyler.  We extended the worship set by two songs and did our teaching inbetween the sets.  I started with WHY we worship and Tyler shared HOW we worship.  He showed this video that we also used for our High School ministry awhile back.  I think its pretty funny but definitely makes it alot easier to talk about the elements of worship.

Volunteer Involvement

With it being a “worship night” our small group time was definitely alittle more crazy than normal.  Like seriously in the middle of the group time I heard the loudest outburst from a student I have ever heard…the kind that every single head in the room turned simulteously their direction.  Our small group leaders did their best to keep the animals from getting to rowdy…some nights Im sure they feel like zoo keepers.

Music/Program

I knew we were taking a risk when we decided to do a “worship night”…pushing the limits of what middle schoolers can handle developmentally doing a 6 song set.  However I would say it was successful and the key was breaking up those 6 songs into three two song sets and also allowing some experiental worship to happen during the final set. We had tables set up throughtout the room, two for confessing their sins and two for writing a note to God.  Also key to our success was having a great worship leader who picked a perfect set. Seriously the flow of songs and the way they related to what each of us shared was awesome. For the game this week Luke brought back a crowd favorite; Take a Bite or Take a Seat.  Students get the chance to eat gross combinations of things they wouldnt normally eat at home.  For our WiFi video we showed this video of an amazingly smart dog.

Final Thought

The importance of having a consistent program especially when working with students cannot be overstated. That being said it’s alright to take some risks occasionally and break the “mold” from what you normally do in your program. By taking risks you learn what an audience is capable of and allow for God to move in different ways, reaching different students.

 
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Posted by on February 25, 2010 in Uncategorized

 

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Letting Go

Thought this was a great story for a number of reasons and was worth sharing;

I wonder how often we are holding on to our agendas and in turn are holding others back from living out their full potential.

 
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Posted by on February 23, 2010 in Uncategorized

 

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Floating Thoughts

  • Actually got some nice FULL days off this weekend to recover from Winter Camp…that was awesome.
  • The feedback from camp continues to be amazing. I have to admit I am humbled how this one ended up.
  • Got plane tickets to go see my dad in May…excited to see him, it’s been way too long.
  • Getting my taxes done today….praying for a nice return ;)
  • Still have to make a decision regarding the ongoing treatment of my Crohns…not easy at all.  I am leaning towards not taking my docs advice and staying off the stronger meds.
  • Meeting with Peter, the student ministry pastor from New Hope tomorrow for dinner.  We met via Twitter…it’s my first tweet up :)
  • While I have enjoyed watching Idol this season, I have to admit there’s only a couple I like and none that I love as of yet.
  • Tomorrow I have my first exam in my Prophets & Gospels class…have to learn alot of verses for it, this one is my favorite;

 For this is what the high and lofty One says—
       he who lives forever, whose name is holy:
       “I live in a high and holy place,
       but also with him who is contrite and lowly in spirit,
       to revive the spirit of the lowly
       and to revive the heart of the contrite.

                                 Isaiah 57:15

 
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Posted by on February 21, 2010 in Uncategorized

 

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Wildfire Wrap

Attendance

Above average.

Talk

Since we just got back from camp two days prior I decided to do a brief recap of the theme at camp and then open it up for sharing.  Students shared various things that stood out from camp, from funny to some meaningful moments. 

Volunteer Involvement

 We only had three leaders out and being that it was so close to camp I think that was very good.

Music/Program

It was also our once a month game night…so no worship. Instead Luke put together another chaotic game involving balloons and hand signals.  I was bummed to see a third of our students opt out of the game before it even started and sat on the stage watching instead. Still need to find some games that work for 190 students on a gym floor (are there such games?). For the WiFi we showed a skate video made and featuring some of our students

Final Thought

For our leaders/staff I would have liked to cancel this week to give everyone a much deserved break. However coming off of a camp weekend the students who went to camp are very eager to come to Wildfire and about half of our audience didnt go to camp and would be bummed that we canceled.  So in the end I think it was worth it to meet however little preparation put into it, for the sake of our students.

 
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Posted by on February 18, 2010 in Uncategorized

 

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Winter Camp POST

This years Winter Camp was no doubt a success.  The positive comments from leaders and students has been very encouraging.  Our (my) anxiety going into the weekend with the weather and lacking a nurse werent realized.  It definitely rained but seemed to stop during the moments we needed it to the most.  We didnt end up Tubing on Sunday…weather was too warm and rainy. Also with only 6 students needing medication the nurse duties were at a minimum and Debbie handled each of them very well.  Our one medical scare involved one of our high school leaders taking a nasty spill as she tried to topple a medicine ball.  With her neck aching we didn’t take any chances and sent her to the hospital for an XRay…ended up fine.

So here are my highlights from the camp;

  • The Dance Party.  My good friend Chip was our DJ and as usual he brought a great, high energy set list of age-appropriate music.  I love again seeing soooo many leaders getting into it…I’m sure some of them haven’t danced like that since their high school prom ;) I busted out my roller blades and was rolling around the party…which was alot of fun.
  • Watching students play earth ball in the mud.  Someone said it reminded them of Gladiator and I can see why…it was pretty intense! Our activities team was so detailed and organized this year, they did a superb job!
  • Hearing so many small group leaders say how my sharing my personal junk Sunday night really connected with the students. My prayer is that God used it to change the trajectory of many of their lives.
  • Celebrating Wildfire’s 3rd Birthday at the very fire pit where we launched back in 07′.
  • Being able to have extended relational time with students.  I loved sitting and chatting with them at meal times and during free time.
  • Seeing God bring the theme together.  Our theme centered around the apple that Adam and Eve ate, how it symbolized choice. Genesis teaches us that Eve ate because she was deceived into thinking it would be good for her to eat it to gain wisdom.  What she thought was a good choice turned out to be a very bad one.  We ended Sunday nights program challenging students to eat an apple (or take a bite) symbolizing a desire for God’s wisdom.

God gets all the Glory.

 
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Posted by on February 17, 2010 in Uncategorized

 

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Winter Camp

No time for a Wildfire Wrap today…but for the amount of effort put into to last night it was a good night :)

I will be at Winter Camp this weekend and though we have limited internet most likely wont be posting anything since my mind will be pre-occupied with my duties there. Stay tuned for a post-camp blog. Continue to ask for your prayers as at the weather outlook doesnt look great.  For those of you interested THIS is the camp we will be at, been at this camp all the five winters I’ve been here…great camp.

 
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Posted by on February 11, 2010 in Uncategorized

 

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“Hell Week”

And so it begins…what some in youth ministry circles refer to as “hell week.” Hell week is the final week leading up to a camp and is always an emotional roller coaster that I wouldnt recommend for the faint of heart.  Leading camps for 100′s of students involves quite the undertaking, with lots of teams working together.  Whether it is the transportation, programs, activities. food, worship or budget…there’s alot that could go wrong.  Satan loves to remind us of this fact with a number of curve balls and last minute issues. Thankfully we believe that the chances of “alot could go right” are much greater and continue to run camps. 

If you are a believer I would appreciate your prayers this week, personally and for everyone involved in camp. I will be speaking for five sessions this weekend and Tyler is leading our worship. Both of us are sick and could use some healing & energy. We are still looking for a camp nurse if you know someone that might be interested in coming for part or all of the weekend.

 
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Posted by on February 7, 2010 in Uncategorized

 

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Wildfire Wrap

Attendance

Above average.

Talk

I was back on this week after a couple of weeks of other speakers taking the stage.  I answered three questions from the audience that we got back in December; Who created God? Who created Satan? and Does God have any faults? I have to be honest that I didn’t put alot into this one…as camp is now just a week away and I will be giving 5 talks there.  The audience seemed to have a decent response…although we continue to have a rowdy group that seems to be growing.  Our attendance was the highest it has been in a couple of months, just under 200 at 199.

Volunteer Involvement

A unique night in that we had not one but two first time high school volunteers checking us out.  Both of them are solid Christians who I’ve known for years and am super excited about them potentially joining our team.  One thing I think our team still needs work on is being bold in dealing with behavior issues. I think alot of them assume someone else will deal with it if they ignore it, and after enough time passes they are totally right.  The irony is that the leader closest to the bad behavior should be dealing with it….not someone across the room.  I have been criticized in the past for not addressing behavior issues more from the stage, but in my view no matter how soft I attempt to make it, it always comes across too strong from the platform and is better coming from a leader in the audience.

Music/Program

 Good night from the worship/tech team.  Our new lighting guy is doing a sick job setting up our stage lights.  You might think this sort of thing doesnt matter at all…and compared with pastoring students it doesnt…but when it definitely adds something to the atmosphere.  The band lead You’ll Come and Shout Unto God which are personal favorites.  For the game this week it was CoCo Puff Chaos.  We had a record for the most coco puffs sticking to a kids face I hear.  Good times.  For the WiFi video I struggled to find one, so I just showed them this one of a BMW Concept car that I want;

Final Thought

Going into the night we were 15 students below our minimum number that we planned on coming to this years Winter Camp…and by the end of the night we were 13 above!  That is definitely a record for us of students signing up on the last day of registration.  In this down economy I know it’s hard for any parent to come up with $169 for a camp, much less if one of the parents are out of work.  On Tuesday I was pleased to learn of a donor paying for 6 students to come on scholarships to camp…allowing us to take all 9 of the students requesting scholarships!  I pray I have that sort of money one day…

 
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Posted by on February 4, 2010 in Uncategorized

 

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